Deborah & Paul
Dear Potential Birth Parent(s),
Our names are Deborah and Paul, and we have a 6 year old daughter named Isabella. We would like to thank you for selecting our profile to read. We greatly admire your courage and strength in considering adoption as a way to provide the best possible future for your child. We can provide your child with a loving, secure, and happy home. We would welcome your child with open arms. Isabella is also adopted, and we are overjoyed at the idea of becoming parents again through adoption. Paul and I first met through friends in 2001, and dated for about 4 years before we were married in 2005. We hope this profile will give you the opportunity to get to know us better. We live just outside the city in a suburban subdivision in a 4 bedroom home. We have worked very hard to buy this home which we consider to be our dream home. Our favourite activities are: walks to the park, weekends at our family’s cottage, swimming in the pool, and curling up on the couch together for a movie (Zootopia is one of our favorites!). We truly felt fortunate when we were chosen by Isabella’s birthmother to raise her and continue to remain in contact. We would welcome a continued relationship with you as well, at whichever level of openness you are comfortable with. We are also looking forward to the chance to come together and choosing a name for this baby together. Thank you again for reading our profile. We would be honoured to have the chance to meet you and to learn more about your hopes and dreams for this child. Please feel free to contact us with any questions you may have. Who We Are and Our Heritage We are a biracial mixed family, open to all kinds of blended families. We love how unique we are and would welcome your baby into our family with open arms and hearts. Your baby will have the opportunity to celebrate all races, colours and creeds from a supportive, caring and non-judgemental perspective. Our family is a combination of English, Irish, Welsh, and East Indian. We welcome more diversity! Deborah is a 37-year-old Caucasian Canadian with English, Irish, and Welsh heritage, light brown hair (plus blonde highlights in the summer), hazel eyes, and 5’7 in height. Paul is a 42 year old South Asian Canadian with East Indian heritage, dark brown/black hair (with maybe a few silver highlights for him), dark brown eyes, and is 6’1 in height. Our 6 year old daughter is South Asian Canadian, with a East Indian heritage, brown hair, dark brown eyes, and is about 4’2 in height, but growing every day. Deborah was raised with Anglican faith and in her childhood, and would attend church at special events. Paul was raised Sikh and would also attend his family’s temple as a child for special events. Although we currently do not practice a specific religion, we feel that we are spiritual people in our own way, and still very much believe in God. We continue to attend the church and the temple on special events with Isabella and have allowed her to find her own individual sense of spirituality on her own terms. She has found great comfort in faith, Christianity, which she has access to in the private school she attends. We have always had a great love for animals. In October 2016, we sadly lost our beloved dog Tiger. He was a Shitzu Poodle mix who had been with us since 2007, but sadly developed a fatal kidney disease in the most recent years which did not respond to treatment. He was the most energetic and loving dog with a bigger than life personality. He would always greet you at the door when we returned home ready to play with one of your shoes ‘in hand’ (well, in his mouth covered in slobber!). In the upcoming years, we hope to get another dog, but want to focus our attentions on building our family through adoption first. Deborah (written by Paul) Deborah grew up as the middle child of three siblings. She had a great childhood in the country. Her Mom and Dad insured that they always living in a loving and safe environment. Her summers were filled with camping trips, hikes in the woods, horse back riding with her sister, snowmobiling and cross-country skiing. Her family home had a large backyard which allowed the three of them to be able to get out and enjoy the outdoors as often as possible. Even though she doesn’t get out in the country now as often, she is still very close to her parents and siblings. Deborah’s father remarried when she was in high school, which meant that she gained 3 more siblings. All together she now has 6 siblings, which makes our family gatherings full of love, fun games and lots of laughter. Her family has also have a great love of animals. As a child she had a family dog, named Tofu, and always a few cats around. To this day, she continues to have a love and compassion for animals. |
Email:
[email protected]
Telephone: 416- 344-3130 We live in: Caledon, ON Our ages: Paul - 42; Deborah - 37 Years together: 16 toget her and 12 married Current Children: we have a 6 year old daughter, adopted at birth Occupations: Paul - Police Officer; Deborah - Human Resources
Adoption Worker:
Sharon Sell
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Deborah’s first job as a teenager was babysitting. Throughout her high school years, she continued to babysit for a family until the children were too old. I consider Deborah a very caring and nurturing person which I believe has helped her in becoming a wonderful mother. She is very down to earth and easygoing and very patient.
Although Deborah is very loving and caring, she also enjoys a number of activities and has a creative eye. She enjoys putting pencil to paper, and sketching out a floor plan of where the Christmas tree will go up, or how the living room would look with the furniture all moved around. She enjoys making crafts every season, like decorating Easter eggs, making valentines hearts, cutting out green shamrocks for St. Patrick’s Day, and carving pumpkins for Halloween. Deborah shares this creative side of herself with Isabella and they spend some wonderful afternoons together creating. I, on the other hand, sit back and enjoy the décor. Some of Deborah’s other favorite activities are movies or classic television shows like; The Notebook, Full(er) House, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Gossip Girl, The Fosters, and even some Ironman for awesome special effects - Gotta love Robert Downey Jr! Deborah has also started a new sport in early 2017, Curling. Yes, I said curling. Can she be any more Canadian, eh?! Deborah remains very close with all her siblings and truly believes that growing up with them has made a very positive impact on the person she has become today. We both hope to share this sibling experience with your child.
Deborah works as a Human Resources Professional in a large company. She has been working for this company for 10 years and in this position for over 7 years. It took Deborah a long time to find out what she wanted to do and she believes that she has found it. She has fulfilled her need to help people and self achievement all in one job.
When Isabella came home, Deborah took 15 months off work and she intends on taking closer to 2 years off work (with benefits) if you choose us to raise your child. We want your child to have all the opportunities and advantages possible in their early years, and we both believe that having someone home for the first few years is influential.
Paul (written by Deb)
Paul grew up in a very loving and active home. He is the oldest of 4 boys. They grew up in a suburban area outside of the city, just down the road from his Aunts and Uncles home. Between the 4 boys and his 3 other cousins, they all grew up playing in the park, road hockey, throwing the ball around and making forts in the basement. I always new Paul would become a great father. He has always loved children, and is often the one in the group that will play endlessly with the children. Paul is intelligent, kind, loving, supportive, and my greatest fan. I know that Paul would be a great father and role model to any child in his life.
I would consider Paul an athletic person with a great love of sports. His first love of the game would be soccer. He has been playing soccer as far back as I can remember and family stories have always included his love of the game. I believe he loves it so much because he’s out there on the field with his teammates, competing and working together on a single goal of having fun. He truly believes that this love of team sports has helped him when he was a young adult develop social, interpersonal, and his decision-making skills.. Later in his 30’s, Paul decided to learn how to skate. It only took him a few years to build his skills, but he is also now on a hockey team that plays in the winter months. I am so proud of him for trying something later in life and achieving his goal. Great job Paul!
When Paul was growing up, there was only one job that he wanted. He wanted to be a Police Officer. And in 1997, his dream came true. Paul is currently a 20+ year police officer with one of the local police services in the area, and he couldn’t be happier. But that didn’t stop him… Paul wanted more. In 2009, he achieved his Diploma in Police Foundations, and in 2013 his Degree in Bachelor of Arts in Justice Studies. As of September 2017, Paul is working on his Masters in Leadership at a local university. I am very proud of you Paul, good luck!
Although Paul may sound super busy and active, he always has time for his family. He truly is a family man. He has a very large heart, gentle nature, and a kind and warm outlook on life. I truly believe that he will be a great father to your child and would always put their needs before his own.
Isabella
Isabella has an imaginative and kind soul. She is 6 years old and in grade 2. We adopted Isabella in late 2010 from a private domestic adoption within Ontario. Shortly after her birth, she came home with us and ever since that day, we have felt like the luckiest parents in the world. Our hope this second time, is to provide your child with a nurturing and loving family environment at the same time as development self-confidence and independence.
We first met Isabella’s birthmother just one day before she went into labour. Her due date was still a week away, but that evening after we meet, her contractions started. Since Isabella came home with us, we have continued to have an open relationship with her birthmother. In this case, there was no other birth-family that Isabella’s birthmother wanted Isabella to stay connected to at this point, but we are open to more birth-family relationships if that is something you wish as well.
From as far back as we can remember, we have always told Isabella about the day she was born at age appropriate stages. Our primary goal is to ensure she is loved and supported as we share her story with her, and be as forthcoming as possible. Its not our story, it’s hers. From an infant, Isabella has always had a ‘life book’ (picture album) in her room of pictures of her first few weeks. These pictures tell the story of when she was born, to whom, and how she joined our family. As she grows up, she continues to ask more questions about her history, which we welcome as we know they are part of her identity. We also plan on telling your child about his or her adoption at an early age, making sure that he or she knows what a caring and special person you are to have given this gift of love through adoption.
We both have been fortunate to have raised with siblings and want to share this amazing experience with your child. We have chosen not to tell Isabella (yet) that we are pursuing an addition to our family, but can’t imaging the joy on Isabella’s face when we tell her. She has been asking for a little brother or sister for a few years now and has asked for an ‘adopted’ brother/sister specifically. We already knew that we wanted to build our family through adoption, but found it very touching that Isabella come to the same conclusion herself. She is a very caring young lady who would relish at the idea of a younger sibling. We believe that Isabella and your child will have a specials sibling bond, and in addition to them both being adopted, this bond will continue throughout their lives as they become adults and in through the different stages of their lives.
Isabella has a very creative mind and loves to keep active with all her interests. She loves to play pretend, create new games, make slime, drawing on a sketch pad, dancing, and playing soccer and hockey. Trips to the park with her Grandfather would probably be at the top of the list as she has him wrapped around her little finger. She loves animals and the outdoors, playing video games and arcade games. Her news favorite arcade game recently is the one with the big claw that grabs toys. She is determined to win one of those funny little toys and will not let us leave until she has one.
Isabella will be the most loving and caring big sister to your child. We have experienced so much joy in raising her and would love the opportunity to raise your child.
Our Adoption Views and Staying Connected
We are thrilled at the possibility of becoming parents through adoption again and look forward to learning about the hopes you have for your child. If you would be comfortable, we welcome the opportunity to meet you and learn what type of relationship you would like to have with your child and with us. We plan on telling your child about his or her adoption at an early age, making sure that he or she knows what a caring and special person you are to have given this gift of love through adoption. Our goal is to encourage a good understanding and open communication about adoption with your child.
We look forward to discussing your views as to the level of openness you are comfortable with. We would be happy to share in the naming of your baby and send you pictures and updates of your child’s progress as desired. We are open to discuss the opportunity for you to meet with your child after the placement, and as your child grows up. Please know that if this is something you are interested in, we are open to it. We understand the need for you to keep connected to your child. We would welcome this relationship with you for the wellbeing of you and your child.
If for any reason, we loose touch, we know about Service Ontario’s Adoption Registry which helps families reconnect.
Over the years, we have stayed in touch with Isabella’s birthmother. Every few months we share pictures and stores. In agreement with her birthmother and Isabella, we coordinated our first meeting (a.k.a. playdate) at a mutually agreeable Chuckie Cheese location in 2016. There is nothing like a loaded and busy Chuckie Cheese to break the ice and make a nervous first meeting fun. We both cherish our unique and special relationship Isabella’s birthmother and understand that it needs to develop naturally, sometimes more open or more closed at times, as the years progress.
We hope to have an equally honest relationship with you however open or closed you wish it to be.
Our Parenting Beliefs & Discipline Style
We believe that as parents, our primary responsibility is to provide your child with love, opportunity and encouragement through all of life’s challenges. We are committed to seeing your child grow up in a caring, happy home where he or she knows that they can come to us for anything. We are very much looking forward to discovering the personality and interests of your child, and to help them pursue their dreams and aspirations.
We would provide your child with a nurturing home where they could grow both as an individual and as a member of our extended families. Children need to feel valued and know that they will be loved unconditionally. They need to be provided with opportunities and experiences to help them define their personalities, and the type of person that they wish to become. We would try to provide them with these opportunities and teach them that the world holds no boundaries for them. We will encourage your child to try various activities to discover what they enjoy most, and to make many new friends.
We think that children learn best when they are provided with encouragement and support. We will try our best to ensure that your child develops a sense of respect for himself or herself as they progress through the many stages of childhood and early adulthood. We will be there to watch them make their own decisions and support them in their choices. We will be there to help them recover and learn from the mistakes they will make and cheer them on as they work their way through life’s obstacles.
We value both formal and informal education and will ensure that your child is provided with both throughout their life, up to the level that they desire. Education costs can be very expensive. We have prepared an education fund for Isabella when she needs it, and will do the same for your child. We will encourage them to follow their interests and will be there to help them do so. We will do everything possible to help your child succeed in the career path they choose.
With every child, there will be times that they require parental discipline. We believe that our discipline style is to correct a child’s inappropriate behaviour and re-enforcing positive behaviours. However, if the inappropriate behaviour continues, we would use consistent correction and possibly use the ‘time out’ technique or the removal of privileges. We also understand that parenting methods need to be age-appropriate and only employed until a child understands the error of their ways. We will never use physical punishment in anyway as a disciplinary measure for your child.
Our role as parents is to provide unconditional love, support and patience through the ups and downs of parenting, while always trying to ensure that your child is given every opportunity to succeed and develop into the complete person we know they can be.
Home Sweet Home
We think we have found our dream home! We are the second owners of our home and have lived here since October 2007. It is an ideal place to raise a family, with 4 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, double garage, and a finished basement which walks out to a fenced in backyard. We back onto a conservation area with views of a stream and fields as far as the eye can see. We have two empty bedrooms upstairs and are hoping to make one of them your child’s. We have a nice large deck on the back of the house which we can relax on in almost all seasons – not winter, its tooooo cold out there! We have worked very hard for this home, and consider it our 'forever family home' until our child(ren) grow up, and leave the nest.
We fell in love with our home because of the backyard, large windows and neighbourhood. Our summers are spent barbequing out back with family and friends, relaxing on the deck, and kicking the ball around. We love just watching nature unfold right before our eyes.
Our Friends and Family
Your child will be surrounded by a loving extended family right from the beginning. They are already so excited to meet your child. Deborah has a brother and sister, two step-brothers and one step-sister, two whom have already started their families and have children. Your child will have cousins to play with right away. Deborah’s family is always getting together on a monthly basis for birthdays, annually holidays (like Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas) or just Sunday dinner at Grandma’s house. Deborah’s mother, father and step-mother are all active in our lives, helping out with babysitting, attending soccer and hockey games, and meeting up for last minute trips to the park.
Paul’s family is also just as involved. He is the eldest of four brothers, most of whom have already settled down and started family’s. Each of the 4 brothers have gained their 'heart of gold' from their father who is very active in all our lives. He especially loves his time with 'his Grandies' (aka: grandchildren), with trips to the park, make-believe games, and teaching them how to ride their bikes. Unfortunately, Paul's mother is no longer with us, but her love and memory lives strong in all of us who knew her.
We are also blessed to have wonderful friends in our life. Some are old friends, some are new friends, but we love them all. Most of our friends have already started their family's, and can't wait for us to add to ours. Your child will be welcomed with open arms into our family, and always cherished and supported for the whole life.
Cottage
Deborah’s family has been going to their family cottage every summer for the last 20 years. It’s a beautiful 3-bedroom wood cottage, with a great big family room and full kitchen. It’s located about 3 hours northeast from our home and it’s a welcome break from the fast-paced life we find ourselves in sometimes. We spend our summers and long weekends up there relaxing by the lake, roasting marshmallows by the campfire, fishing off the dock, listening to the loon calls on the lake, rides on the tube with the motor boat, and sleeping in every chance we get.
Our cottage is a winterized cottage with full plumbing, heating, air conditioning (if needed on the really hot nights), three bedrooms, full kitchen and a professionally made play fort for the kids under the deck. This place has everything!! (except WIFI). Deborah’s father is a ‘Mr. Handy Man’ so the cottage is always being maintained and in tip top shape. The cottage backs onto a lake with two motor boats (one fishing boat and motor boat), three kayaks and all the water and sand toys you can imagine.
Our days are spent, relaxing on the desk, swimming in the lake, playing in the sand, exploring and learning about nature and wildlife, playing games with the cousins, and learning how to fish off the dock with Popa (Deborah’s father). After a full day of play, we settle into the nicest gazebo on the deck with screened in windows (to keep those darn bugs out), for a relaxing dinner, while listening to the trees blow in the breeze and birds of the evening. Our nights are spent down at the bonfire with lots of marshmallows, or inside playing board games or watching our favourite movies.
Our funniest memories of the cottage, are the ones that aren’t planned but result in many laughs as the years go on. On one occasion, Deborah’s father took Paul and his brother on a boat ride for a tour of the lake side cottages, and about one hour later, we watched them paddling back with hand paddles. It turns out, they were chatting so much that they ran out of gas in the boat! We all had a good laugh about this. Safety is always a top priority as well around the cottage, boat drivers are always licenced, lifejacket are always available, and hand paddles are always in the boats.
We look forward to sharing this cottage with your child and believe it enhances imagination, develops an appreciation of nature, offers our family a chance to slow down and relax for some quality time with family and friends.
Ready to adopt: Newborn to 5-year-old
Gender: Either girl or boy (no preference)
Province of Residence: Ontario
Residence type: Detached 2-story, 4-bedroom
Neighborhood: Suburban, family oriented community with parks, playgrounds, and a library
Family Cottage: Haliburton Country
Pets: We sadly lost our dog Tiger in Oct 2016, but we hope to adopt another dog in a few years
We both have so much more love to give, and are ready to become parents again. We have always hoped for another child in our family, and understand the joy of siblings from our own childhoods. We wish to share this joy with your child.
Thank you so much for reading our profile. We hope it has given you the opportunity to get to know our family a bit better. We would love to learn more about you, and would be honoured to adopt your child.
With love, Deborah and Paul
Although Deborah is very loving and caring, she also enjoys a number of activities and has a creative eye. She enjoys putting pencil to paper, and sketching out a floor plan of where the Christmas tree will go up, or how the living room would look with the furniture all moved around. She enjoys making crafts every season, like decorating Easter eggs, making valentines hearts, cutting out green shamrocks for St. Patrick’s Day, and carving pumpkins for Halloween. Deborah shares this creative side of herself with Isabella and they spend some wonderful afternoons together creating. I, on the other hand, sit back and enjoy the décor. Some of Deborah’s other favorite activities are movies or classic television shows like; The Notebook, Full(er) House, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Gossip Girl, The Fosters, and even some Ironman for awesome special effects - Gotta love Robert Downey Jr! Deborah has also started a new sport in early 2017, Curling. Yes, I said curling. Can she be any more Canadian, eh?! Deborah remains very close with all her siblings and truly believes that growing up with them has made a very positive impact on the person she has become today. We both hope to share this sibling experience with your child.
Deborah works as a Human Resources Professional in a large company. She has been working for this company for 10 years and in this position for over 7 years. It took Deborah a long time to find out what she wanted to do and she believes that she has found it. She has fulfilled her need to help people and self achievement all in one job.
When Isabella came home, Deborah took 15 months off work and she intends on taking closer to 2 years off work (with benefits) if you choose us to raise your child. We want your child to have all the opportunities and advantages possible in their early years, and we both believe that having someone home for the first few years is influential.
Paul (written by Deb)
Paul grew up in a very loving and active home. He is the oldest of 4 boys. They grew up in a suburban area outside of the city, just down the road from his Aunts and Uncles home. Between the 4 boys and his 3 other cousins, they all grew up playing in the park, road hockey, throwing the ball around and making forts in the basement. I always new Paul would become a great father. He has always loved children, and is often the one in the group that will play endlessly with the children. Paul is intelligent, kind, loving, supportive, and my greatest fan. I know that Paul would be a great father and role model to any child in his life.
I would consider Paul an athletic person with a great love of sports. His first love of the game would be soccer. He has been playing soccer as far back as I can remember and family stories have always included his love of the game. I believe he loves it so much because he’s out there on the field with his teammates, competing and working together on a single goal of having fun. He truly believes that this love of team sports has helped him when he was a young adult develop social, interpersonal, and his decision-making skills.. Later in his 30’s, Paul decided to learn how to skate. It only took him a few years to build his skills, but he is also now on a hockey team that plays in the winter months. I am so proud of him for trying something later in life and achieving his goal. Great job Paul!
When Paul was growing up, there was only one job that he wanted. He wanted to be a Police Officer. And in 1997, his dream came true. Paul is currently a 20+ year police officer with one of the local police services in the area, and he couldn’t be happier. But that didn’t stop him… Paul wanted more. In 2009, he achieved his Diploma in Police Foundations, and in 2013 his Degree in Bachelor of Arts in Justice Studies. As of September 2017, Paul is working on his Masters in Leadership at a local university. I am very proud of you Paul, good luck!
Although Paul may sound super busy and active, he always has time for his family. He truly is a family man. He has a very large heart, gentle nature, and a kind and warm outlook on life. I truly believe that he will be a great father to your child and would always put their needs before his own.
Isabella
Isabella has an imaginative and kind soul. She is 6 years old and in grade 2. We adopted Isabella in late 2010 from a private domestic adoption within Ontario. Shortly after her birth, she came home with us and ever since that day, we have felt like the luckiest parents in the world. Our hope this second time, is to provide your child with a nurturing and loving family environment at the same time as development self-confidence and independence.
We first met Isabella’s birthmother just one day before she went into labour. Her due date was still a week away, but that evening after we meet, her contractions started. Since Isabella came home with us, we have continued to have an open relationship with her birthmother. In this case, there was no other birth-family that Isabella’s birthmother wanted Isabella to stay connected to at this point, but we are open to more birth-family relationships if that is something you wish as well.
From as far back as we can remember, we have always told Isabella about the day she was born at age appropriate stages. Our primary goal is to ensure she is loved and supported as we share her story with her, and be as forthcoming as possible. Its not our story, it’s hers. From an infant, Isabella has always had a ‘life book’ (picture album) in her room of pictures of her first few weeks. These pictures tell the story of when she was born, to whom, and how she joined our family. As she grows up, she continues to ask more questions about her history, which we welcome as we know they are part of her identity. We also plan on telling your child about his or her adoption at an early age, making sure that he or she knows what a caring and special person you are to have given this gift of love through adoption.
We both have been fortunate to have raised with siblings and want to share this amazing experience with your child. We have chosen not to tell Isabella (yet) that we are pursuing an addition to our family, but can’t imaging the joy on Isabella’s face when we tell her. She has been asking for a little brother or sister for a few years now and has asked for an ‘adopted’ brother/sister specifically. We already knew that we wanted to build our family through adoption, but found it very touching that Isabella come to the same conclusion herself. She is a very caring young lady who would relish at the idea of a younger sibling. We believe that Isabella and your child will have a specials sibling bond, and in addition to them both being adopted, this bond will continue throughout their lives as they become adults and in through the different stages of their lives.
Isabella has a very creative mind and loves to keep active with all her interests. She loves to play pretend, create new games, make slime, drawing on a sketch pad, dancing, and playing soccer and hockey. Trips to the park with her Grandfather would probably be at the top of the list as she has him wrapped around her little finger. She loves animals and the outdoors, playing video games and arcade games. Her news favorite arcade game recently is the one with the big claw that grabs toys. She is determined to win one of those funny little toys and will not let us leave until she has one.
Isabella will be the most loving and caring big sister to your child. We have experienced so much joy in raising her and would love the opportunity to raise your child.
Our Adoption Views and Staying Connected
We are thrilled at the possibility of becoming parents through adoption again and look forward to learning about the hopes you have for your child. If you would be comfortable, we welcome the opportunity to meet you and learn what type of relationship you would like to have with your child and with us. We plan on telling your child about his or her adoption at an early age, making sure that he or she knows what a caring and special person you are to have given this gift of love through adoption. Our goal is to encourage a good understanding and open communication about adoption with your child.
We look forward to discussing your views as to the level of openness you are comfortable with. We would be happy to share in the naming of your baby and send you pictures and updates of your child’s progress as desired. We are open to discuss the opportunity for you to meet with your child after the placement, and as your child grows up. Please know that if this is something you are interested in, we are open to it. We understand the need for you to keep connected to your child. We would welcome this relationship with you for the wellbeing of you and your child.
If for any reason, we loose touch, we know about Service Ontario’s Adoption Registry which helps families reconnect.
Over the years, we have stayed in touch with Isabella’s birthmother. Every few months we share pictures and stores. In agreement with her birthmother and Isabella, we coordinated our first meeting (a.k.a. playdate) at a mutually agreeable Chuckie Cheese location in 2016. There is nothing like a loaded and busy Chuckie Cheese to break the ice and make a nervous first meeting fun. We both cherish our unique and special relationship Isabella’s birthmother and understand that it needs to develop naturally, sometimes more open or more closed at times, as the years progress.
We hope to have an equally honest relationship with you however open or closed you wish it to be.
Our Parenting Beliefs & Discipline Style
We believe that as parents, our primary responsibility is to provide your child with love, opportunity and encouragement through all of life’s challenges. We are committed to seeing your child grow up in a caring, happy home where he or she knows that they can come to us for anything. We are very much looking forward to discovering the personality and interests of your child, and to help them pursue their dreams and aspirations.
We would provide your child with a nurturing home where they could grow both as an individual and as a member of our extended families. Children need to feel valued and know that they will be loved unconditionally. They need to be provided with opportunities and experiences to help them define their personalities, and the type of person that they wish to become. We would try to provide them with these opportunities and teach them that the world holds no boundaries for them. We will encourage your child to try various activities to discover what they enjoy most, and to make many new friends.
We think that children learn best when they are provided with encouragement and support. We will try our best to ensure that your child develops a sense of respect for himself or herself as they progress through the many stages of childhood and early adulthood. We will be there to watch them make their own decisions and support them in their choices. We will be there to help them recover and learn from the mistakes they will make and cheer them on as they work their way through life’s obstacles.
We value both formal and informal education and will ensure that your child is provided with both throughout their life, up to the level that they desire. Education costs can be very expensive. We have prepared an education fund for Isabella when she needs it, and will do the same for your child. We will encourage them to follow their interests and will be there to help them do so. We will do everything possible to help your child succeed in the career path they choose.
With every child, there will be times that they require parental discipline. We believe that our discipline style is to correct a child’s inappropriate behaviour and re-enforcing positive behaviours. However, if the inappropriate behaviour continues, we would use consistent correction and possibly use the ‘time out’ technique or the removal of privileges. We also understand that parenting methods need to be age-appropriate and only employed until a child understands the error of their ways. We will never use physical punishment in anyway as a disciplinary measure for your child.
Our role as parents is to provide unconditional love, support and patience through the ups and downs of parenting, while always trying to ensure that your child is given every opportunity to succeed and develop into the complete person we know they can be.
Home Sweet Home
We think we have found our dream home! We are the second owners of our home and have lived here since October 2007. It is an ideal place to raise a family, with 4 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, double garage, and a finished basement which walks out to a fenced in backyard. We back onto a conservation area with views of a stream and fields as far as the eye can see. We have two empty bedrooms upstairs and are hoping to make one of them your child’s. We have a nice large deck on the back of the house which we can relax on in almost all seasons – not winter, its tooooo cold out there! We have worked very hard for this home, and consider it our 'forever family home' until our child(ren) grow up, and leave the nest.
We fell in love with our home because of the backyard, large windows and neighbourhood. Our summers are spent barbequing out back with family and friends, relaxing on the deck, and kicking the ball around. We love just watching nature unfold right before our eyes.
Our Friends and Family
Your child will be surrounded by a loving extended family right from the beginning. They are already so excited to meet your child. Deborah has a brother and sister, two step-brothers and one step-sister, two whom have already started their families and have children. Your child will have cousins to play with right away. Deborah’s family is always getting together on a monthly basis for birthdays, annually holidays (like Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas) or just Sunday dinner at Grandma’s house. Deborah’s mother, father and step-mother are all active in our lives, helping out with babysitting, attending soccer and hockey games, and meeting up for last minute trips to the park.
Paul’s family is also just as involved. He is the eldest of four brothers, most of whom have already settled down and started family’s. Each of the 4 brothers have gained their 'heart of gold' from their father who is very active in all our lives. He especially loves his time with 'his Grandies' (aka: grandchildren), with trips to the park, make-believe games, and teaching them how to ride their bikes. Unfortunately, Paul's mother is no longer with us, but her love and memory lives strong in all of us who knew her.
We are also blessed to have wonderful friends in our life. Some are old friends, some are new friends, but we love them all. Most of our friends have already started their family's, and can't wait for us to add to ours. Your child will be welcomed with open arms into our family, and always cherished and supported for the whole life.
Cottage
Deborah’s family has been going to their family cottage every summer for the last 20 years. It’s a beautiful 3-bedroom wood cottage, with a great big family room and full kitchen. It’s located about 3 hours northeast from our home and it’s a welcome break from the fast-paced life we find ourselves in sometimes. We spend our summers and long weekends up there relaxing by the lake, roasting marshmallows by the campfire, fishing off the dock, listening to the loon calls on the lake, rides on the tube with the motor boat, and sleeping in every chance we get.
Our cottage is a winterized cottage with full plumbing, heating, air conditioning (if needed on the really hot nights), three bedrooms, full kitchen and a professionally made play fort for the kids under the deck. This place has everything!! (except WIFI). Deborah’s father is a ‘Mr. Handy Man’ so the cottage is always being maintained and in tip top shape. The cottage backs onto a lake with two motor boats (one fishing boat and motor boat), three kayaks and all the water and sand toys you can imagine.
Our days are spent, relaxing on the desk, swimming in the lake, playing in the sand, exploring and learning about nature and wildlife, playing games with the cousins, and learning how to fish off the dock with Popa (Deborah’s father). After a full day of play, we settle into the nicest gazebo on the deck with screened in windows (to keep those darn bugs out), for a relaxing dinner, while listening to the trees blow in the breeze and birds of the evening. Our nights are spent down at the bonfire with lots of marshmallows, or inside playing board games or watching our favourite movies.
Our funniest memories of the cottage, are the ones that aren’t planned but result in many laughs as the years go on. On one occasion, Deborah’s father took Paul and his brother on a boat ride for a tour of the lake side cottages, and about one hour later, we watched them paddling back with hand paddles. It turns out, they were chatting so much that they ran out of gas in the boat! We all had a good laugh about this. Safety is always a top priority as well around the cottage, boat drivers are always licenced, lifejacket are always available, and hand paddles are always in the boats.
We look forward to sharing this cottage with your child and believe it enhances imagination, develops an appreciation of nature, offers our family a chance to slow down and relax for some quality time with family and friends.
Ready to adopt: Newborn to 5-year-old
Gender: Either girl or boy (no preference)
Province of Residence: Ontario
Residence type: Detached 2-story, 4-bedroom
Neighborhood: Suburban, family oriented community with parks, playgrounds, and a library
Family Cottage: Haliburton Country
Pets: We sadly lost our dog Tiger in Oct 2016, but we hope to adopt another dog in a few years
We both have so much more love to give, and are ready to become parents again. We have always hoped for another child in our family, and understand the joy of siblings from our own childhoods. We wish to share this joy with your child.
Thank you so much for reading our profile. We hope it has given you the opportunity to get to know our family a bit better. We would love to learn more about you, and would be honoured to adopt your child.
With love, Deborah and Paul